I really have not had any disagreements lately so this is a difficult blog to write this week. I am pretty lucky in this manner. However, we are in the middle of a personal family conflict which involves my daughter, the father of her twins, and his family, it is pretty ugly. However, my daughter and I have decided to handle things in many of the ways we have learned about this week. For instance, we are taking the balcony approach as mentioned in the 3R's. By going into the balcony and looking at the story we can make rational choices and not be clouded by the anger, hurt, and betrayal this situation can bring out. 
Finally, I am a Christian and so my faith is very important in this huge, seemingly impossible situation. I am praying throughout this whole event and trusting that God will get us through it, BUT, I must be aware of how He would want me to handle each step of this process. I also must trust my daughter's insights of what she wants for the girls and the outcome of this very complicated situation.
Reference
O'Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J. (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Jennifer,
ReplyDeleteI pray for clarity in this moment. It is very difficult to have a clear mind when your children are involved in a conflict as difficult as this one. We would like to have all the say in all the decisions so I applaud you for sharing your learned skills with your daughter. My Dad used to say "cool heads always prevail". Keep up using your logic and not your heart. Best of luck!
Jennifer,
ReplyDeletenice post that is a tough situation. Even with the faith in God your family will go through some hard situations. But that is why there is that saying, God will not give you anything you cannot handle. I hope and pray for the best for you and your family in this situation. I have been here so I know it takes it a lot of prayers and good communication skills. I think the balcony approach is a good one. Good luck
I pray that the conflict between the families can be worked out in a postive way. The children are the number one importance in any situation like that. The 3Rs definitely would work for all in this situation. Productive communication is the key to having success in the end.
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